How To Deal With Believing You’re Bad As An Over-Thinker
How It Feels To Overthink About Believing You’re Bad
Having this core belief that you’re a bad person feels like you’re just waiting for everyone to find out you’re bad, even if you’ve done nothing to constitute being an entirely bad person. It feels like every bad thought you have about yourself, your brain tricks you into believing is true. It feels like you’re always one step away from having the whole world unveil what your mind is telling you is true about you. That you’re terrible, evil, and are the reason for all the bad in the world.
This may sound extreme to some, and to others very validating and relatable. But to me, having this belief that I’m a bad person is really confusing. I think it plays a lot into my black and white thinking which is a constant struggle of mine already, but this idea that I can inherently be either all good or all bad is really very limiting. Living in this all or nothing state of mind plays a toll on you, and has left me in a really paralyzing state. What I mean by that, is by feeling like I am all bad, I have given myself no room to even try to do things I wanted to because of this weird voice telling me I was too bad to try to do anything in the first place.
What Is Overthinking About Believing I’m A Bad Person Doing To My Life
By letting this paralyzing state run my life, this belief of who I was left me very stagnant in both my actions and beliefs. I didn’t say much, try much, challenge much, or change much because of this fear.
This idea that I was an overall bad person with no proof to back up this thought, gave me a really complex mindset about life too. Because my brain was saying something so far from the truth, with no proof, and I was just accepting it and feeling bad about it..I noticed I did this with things outside myself as well. I believe this way of thinking bled into me having a very all or nothing mindset and it made the gray area really non-existent within myself, and with the life around me too.
I had to be 100% perfect in order to be good and if it was 1% off of that, then 100% bad it was. I saw this go into my life in goals I’d try to reach, needing things to be a certain way to be okay, not giving other people as much grace as they deserve, and pushing myself past my limit in order to reach that insane 100% I was gripped to.
What Made Me Want To Change My View On Thinking Im A Bad Person
By blindly accepting the bad things my mind was telling me, I was accepting things around me in my life that maybe I didn’t like or wouldn’t tolerate had I challenged it. We have these weird little things we live by that we just blindly accept, whether that’s something from society, something we’ve been told, or something we’ve told ourselves.
It’s interesting how quickly we can build a little prison for ourselves just by blindly accepting things. Like this topic of believing I’m bad for example, imagine if I had done the opposite and just simply believed from the get go that I was the best person and that I loved myself?
I wonder how much more I would try, how much more I would chit chat, and how much more I would believe I should try new things, and share my ideas with the world. This concept of what could be, the basic potential of believing the opposite of what I had currently believed was my invitation to myself to change my view on believing I was a bad person.
What I Thought About To Make Changes To Believing I’m A Bad Person
When I really began diving into this whole belief about me being a bad person, the first thing I questioned was why I even thought this without any proof? Why would I accept anything without proof? I am the first to admit, I have made mistakes, not been proud of actions I’ve taken, and haven’t always been the best person in circumstances. But overall, I didn’t think there was anything that pointed me in the direction of being an entirely bad person.
This made me see that accepting things outright and having it engrained into my core belief for so long is so damaging. It’s so important to question where certain recurring thoughts you have come from, and to see if they’re even true. Building your identity around something entirely false really sends you into a state of confusion, when your brain is telling you one thing but you know in your gut it is not making any sense.
Questioning my thoughts, my core beliefs, and what I think and then challenging everything that doesn’t uplift me is a hard and recurring thing I have to remind myself of..but the thoughts we let in our minds, matter.
What I Chose To Do With What I Learned About Believing I’m A Bad Person
The place I got to with all this information I’d thought up is this..maybe it has nothing to do with what your brain is telling you, but maybe you feel like a bad person because your soul and your actions aren’t lining up. You’re ignoring things you want to do and taking that frustration out on others or the world around you, and that is what feels bad. You keep yourself quiet and have an internal problem with people who don’t. You know when something isn’t for you, but you keep yourself in places that you don’t want to be because you feel like you deserve to be somewhere you don’t want to be. That built up frustration creates a person you don’t know and probably don’t like.
When you think you’re a bad person it’s because you’re living in a mind trap of things you know aren’t you. It’s your responsibility to see that what you’re doing isn’t working and create your life to be one that feels right. Feeling right about your life won’t make you mad because you’re right where you wanna be. Being yourself and loving the life you’re in keeps you in a state of alignment and in alignment there is no fear of believing you’re doing anything wrong when you’re in a state of flow within yourself and where you want to be.
How I Carried Out What I Learned About Believing I’m A Bad Person
With learning all of this, the antidote to believing you’re a bad person is listening to yourself the first time and taking action. The state of mind you’re in, the decisions you’ve made, the situations you’re in, or doing something you know you don’t want to be doing are the bad parts, not you. I’m not saying to not take accountability for mistakes, but you as a whole are not bad. You may just be doing something that makes you feel bad.
Moral of the story, get out of things that make you feel bad. Reflect on why they make you feel bad, why you stayed, and why you believed you had to. You have free will to be in places that make you feel good, and if you’re continuously thinking something horrible about yourself..first look within check that out make sure you have yourself in check first and then look around at your environment. If you hate it, get out. If you hate how you feel inside, get something out of you that’s making you feel bad.
Maybe the big deal of this whole thing of feeling like a bad person is, instead of feeling like a bad person, maybe you just have the verbage wrong. Maybe you don’t necessarily feel like a bad person, but you feel like a person that’s in the wrong situation and it feels bad. You just may be grouping all of this idea together into you being the problem when you’re just feeling bad in the situation you’re in.
